January 2, 2009
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Happy New Year to all!Browsing the net and Xanga, there are so many new posts and resolutions. My page is still Dec 30th, 2008. I have caught a cold since Christmas, so this is the cold that lasted from 2008 to 2009.
I have two guests since December 26. Although my guests do not bother me but I can’t concentrate to write. Do not get me wrong. I am not blaming on them, I just can’t concentrate when there are so many things going on around me.
Just like any Vietnamese family we have a large extended family where uncles, aunts, and in-laws are considered family. My two guests are the favorite of this extended family; therefore, everyone is fighting to have them over. Despite my dread of cooking, I should not worry about my cooking skill because the two guests have not once had dinner with me. I have made room, new comforter and bed sheets. The first night they arrived, about bedtime they prepared to leave to another family member. I have to threaten that I will be angry if they keep rejecting my offering.
After the first few nights waiting for my guests to return having dinner with me, I realize that is not going to happen. Look like there is a determination or a pre-arrangement that my guests are busy somewhere at dinner time. It is a relief for me that I do not have to worry about what to cook or how to cook or if they will like my cooking. I just cook as I usually do and it is up to my guests if they will eat with me. As days went, I have started to wonder if I am infamous for my cooking or my difficult personality. You never know what your family talk behind your back.
The way it unfolds makes me thinking of a detail in the book Gone With The Wind. As Scarlett prepared an extravagant birthday party, all people came to see Melanie although she did not have any goodies. They came to play and sing at Melanie’s house and also as a way to spite Scarlett. Although I am not as rich as Scarlett and my other relatives are not in anyway as poor as Melanie, still I have felt an intentional slightness. I wonder why I always feel I have not tried hard enough to win people’s approval.
Anyway, I open my home and my heart, it is up to people to accept them. I am not going to let their slightness bothering me or feeling bad about myself.
Comments (9)
it is difficult when there are a lot of relatives and so little time… tell them you expect them to come for dinner and invite the relatives who are also inviting them for dinner- scary because you have to cook for everyone but it could be a lot of fun too. Happy New Year cook up a storm and have a lot of fun doing it.
Relatives…Even with their good intentions, sometimes their actions hurt us. Maybe they are trying to placate others whom they did not stay with, by having dinner with them. Maybe they’re just trying to divide their attention equally (or so they think) amongst all the family members?
Happy New Year to you and your family. Hope 2009 will bring you joy !
I try not to worry too much about what my family says about me. I didn’t go “home” for Christmas this year. I’m not really interested in being scrutinized by family any more.
hopefully you get better soon
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Happy New Year!
play it safe and order pizza.
i think they staying over because you have big house.
@pmanmeister - My relatives stay with me but they seem to prefer to stay in other places, regardless of the size of the house and that is the reason I feel being slighted.
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